This is a rant. I still love her, but she is working my last nerve with this one…..
Geetle is becoming very passive aggressive. Instead of asking for things, she will hint, motion with her hands, create elaborate stories that should result in her getting the item, try to trick us, etc. Some examples:
When she wants some of the apple I am eating: she dances in front of me with her mouth open chanting “apple, apple, apple”
When she needs help pouring syrup on her waffles : she says “Who is going to help me with the syrup?”
When she wants to watch a DVD: she says “Did you know much I like Calliou?”
When she wants a game that is up high on a shelf : she sits sadly in front of the shelf, trying to get our attention so that she can say “I wish I could reach that game.”
This happens a dozen times a day. We have talked to her about how to ask for things. We stage elaborate plays so that she can see BAGD ask me for something and me give it to him. We ignore her tricks and pretend we have no idea what she is talking about. It does not seem to be working. I hope she out grows this stage soon. The only good thing about this stage is that apparently I am a bit passive aggressive too (BAGD pointed this out), but now that I see how it pisses people off, I am quitting cold turkey. Personal growth for me, I guess.
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The passive/aggressive requests make me a little nuts too, so we’ve tried really hard to nip it in the bud. I don’t react to the implied request, but do respond to their comment. When our son says, “Gosh, I sure am hungry for a snack”, I’ll respond with “Gosh, I sure wish the laundry was done” or something similar. When my son waves his sippy cup at me without saying anything, I’ll respond with “Isn’t that a great red cup?”. When he hints that he wants a DVD with “I really like the Aristocats”, I’ll say “I really like Beauty and the Beast” and continue on with whatever I was doing.
Requests will get some action, passive/agressive comments do not.
Tina
Tina’s ideas sound good….why don’t you try it and let us know how it works. MOM
We have tried to ignore her comments. She says “who will help me with my zipper?” We answer “I don’t know, who did you ask?” We have done this for months, but she has not gotten it yet. She is somewhat better. She used to be 90/10. Now she is probably 60/40. But still, a long way to go.